Judgment is sneaky.
It’s the quiet ugh when you see yourself in a photo.
It’s the why am I like this? moment at 2 a.m.
It’s the way you pick yourself apart for not doing enough, being enough, looking enough — whatever “enough” even means.

And here’s the truth: the more you judge yourself, the more you feed it.
It’s like giving a toxic roommate free rent in your brain.
And honestly? They’ve stayed way too long.

So today, we’re kicking judgment out. Not by pretending it never happened, but by cutting the cord completely.

✨Step 1: Set the Scene

Find somewhere you can be alone without your phone buzzing every five seconds.
Grab:

• Pen + paper (yes, old school — it hits different)
• A candle (white or gold = clarity + clean slate vibes)
• A fire-safe dish or access to the outdoors
• Optional: crystals for backup energy — Aquamarine for stepping into your honest truth, Black Tourmaline for protection and grounded energy, Rose Quartz for unconditional and powerful self-love

Light the candle. Take a deep breath. Imagine you’re about to have the most honest conversation of your life — because you are.

✨Step 2: Write the Letter

This is your apology to yourself.
No sugarcoating. No skipping the hard parts.

Start with:
“I’m sorry for the ways I’ve judged you…”

And then let it pour out. Every time you’ve been your own worst critic. Every comparison. Every time you’ve held yourself to an impossible standard. The things you’d never say to someone you love — but somehow thought it was okay to say to you. I also want you to step into gratitude for a minute. Judgment may have served you in the past and you can play witness to it now as a third party for the lessons it’s given to you. Thank it, and send it on its way.

✨Step 3: See the Cord

While you write, imagine a cord running from your chest to a big, heavy knot. What does the knot look like? Can you build it out in your mind so that you have a clear picture of it? Maybe it’s a string wrapped and tangled around a big gray ball of dust. That knot and all it encapsulates is every single judgment you’ve been dragging around.

Now picture golden scissors in your hand. They are illuminated with a golden, luminous light. That light represents freedom, liberation, purification. Your guides are standing next to you. You both cut straight through. The cord snaps. The knot dissolves. And you can breathe again. Exhale deeply.

✨Step 4: Release It

Read your letter out loud. Really hear it, from a heart-centered space. Then destroy it — safely.

• My favorite way that feels most cathartic and symbolic of the clearing is to burn the letter. Burn it and watch the smoke carry it away.
• Or bury it in the earth and let nature recycle it into something good.

Seal the moment by saying:
“I release judgment, I thank you for serving me, and I more forward in choosing love.”

✨Step 5: Keep the Promise

For the next week, notice when judgment pops up. If you catch yourself doing it, stop and ask:
“If I didn’t judge right now, what would I choose instead?”

Because every time you swap judgment for curiosity or compassion, you’re cutting another invisible cord. And little by little, you get lighter.