What It Actually Means to Be Devoted (To Love, to Art, to Yourself)

What It Actually Means to Be Devoted (To Love, to Art, to Yourself)

Devotion isn’t something you decide one day and execute perfectly ever after.
It’s not a personality trait, it’s not discipline, it’s not obsession dressed up as virtue.

Devotion is like an inner tether, a thread from something greater you feel pulling you back in, again and again, to the thing you cannot abandon without abandoning yourself.

It’s not overt, it doesn’t announce itself, it doesn’t require bold acts to prove its sincerity.

It’s a need. Not a craving, but a knowing, innately within you.

And once you’ve felt it, you can’t unfeel it, and you begin to recognize how it plays a part in your life and the way you view and interact with the world in every moment.


✨Devotion Is Not Urgency

Somewhere along the way, we have confused devotion with pressure. The pressure to keep going, to be consistent, to monetize, optimize, scale, and justify.

But urgency is not equal to devotion; urgency is fear wrapped up in an impostor badge claiming importance and sanctity over the rest of your life, hijacking your peace and your presence to fulfill its needs.

Urgency declares from a space of lack: “If I stop, I’m going to lose something.” (Hint: that something, is the illusion of control.)

Devotion does not abandon the body to satisfy the ego. It does not force outcomes or solutions. It does not override intuition in the name of “productivity.” If something requires you to surrender your serenity and disappear from yourself in order to sustain it, it’s not devotion — it’s extraction. Like an energy sieve, draining what life force you could have dedicated to true productivity in presence and creation, and letting it go to waste spinning your wheels.

Devotion asks us to actively reject obsession and self-abandonment. It requires us to stop performing for approval and start listening inward — something I explored more deeply in The Energetic Cost of People-Pleasing.

The truth of devotion is steady, it is step-by-step, it is in the ebbs and flows, the highs and lows, it proves survival in the moments of pause.


Where Devotion Has Been Misunderstood

We’ve been taught to confuse devotion with work.

And not with purpose, but with output.

There’s a societal pressure to prove the worth of what you love by turning it into something financially legible as quickly as possible, and as early on as you discover a talent or a passion for it. As if meaning must be justified by income. As if creation only matters once it’s productive.

But devotion doesn’t begin with the question:
How do I make this work?

It begins with:
Why can’t I not do this?

That difference is everything.

Craft born from necessity moves differently than work born from pressure. It is like something persistently knocking within you begging to come out of you – a Divine purpose. Creation from the sake of creation, rather than creation for monetization. One expands you. The other drains you. One deepens intimacy with yourself. The other asks you to perform a version of yourself that can be consumed. One is centered around the self. The other is centered around the audience.

Devotion is about listening to what drives you, not about working harder.


The Return Is the Practice

For me, devotion looks like returning to self. Reconnecting and returning to purpose – my “why am I here?”

Devotion is returning when inspiration feels absent.
Devotion is returning when what I make isn’t “good” or meant to go anywhere.
It’s returning to the work, the craft, the creation, even when I know it will likely never be seen. It is simply devotion to the craft and the expression of self, of what is knocking and begging to come out.

Because creation begets creation. Even discarded work clears the channel.
Even unfinished thoughts clear the clutter and the confusion and turn the tap back on. It doesn’t need to be good, or perfect, or a finished thought, it just needs to be – and in being, it needs an outlet. The outlet is you.

Devotion is about staying in the relationship with the process itself, not about producing something worthy.

And the most important connection within that relationship is that it requires full honesty. Staying honest with yourself is non-negotiable. When something no longer rings true, devotion doesn’t cling — it adapts, finds a new lane, and recalibrates.
When fear puts on one of its many masks and disguises itself as obligation, devotion notices.

It asks the question:
Is this still alive and enlivening for me?


Faith Without Proof

If there is one thing devotion always asks of you, it is going to ask you for faith.

Not blind faith, but embodied faith.

It’s the kind of faith that trusts what that you’re drawn toward, even when there’s no evidence it will “work”, is a calling from something greater, something Divine, something only you can produce.
It’s the kind of faith that continues the work without any hidden agenda, production monitor or guarantees.
It's the kind of faith that releases control on exactly how things should look or be produced, and allows the timing to remain mysterious, in full trust that with a guided hand it will find its place in the world.

This has been one of my deepest practices over the past year: learning to stay devoted without needing immediate confirmation or approval of self, and trusting I am always on the path, even when I feel like I am walking blindly.

It is the practice to continue walking without proof. To trust that what is meant for me will meet me and will flow through me, not because I force it, but because I remain aligned with it and open to it. The final practice of devotion is faith without proof — returning again and again even when certainty hasn’t arrived yet. I’ve been learning this in real time, especially through my evolving relationship with faith and trust in a higher power.

Devotion requires presence, without a demand of certainty of outcome.


Devotion as a Way of Being

Devotion is something you inhabit, not something you perform.

It’s a posture you return to:

·       when fear starts to get loud and take up too much space internally

·       when impostor syndrome and comparison begin to creep in

·       when elements of doubt start to question your innate worthiness

·       when the world pressures you insisting you move faster than your soul can keep up

Devotion asks you to stay – stay present, stay listening, stay attuned. Not because it’s easy (because it’s not), but because it’s living in truth. And when you live from that space of honesty, something powerful happens: your life begins to organize itself around what matters and what gives you purpose, rather than what demands from fear or lack.


A Closing Invitation

You don’t need to search for devotion. You already know where it lives in you.

It’s in the thing you keep coming back to.
The thing that doesn’t leave you alone.
The thing that asks for your presence, not your perfection.

If you create space for it and let it, devotion will teach you how to live, not by force, but by fidelity to what is real. And that is what changes everything.

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